"I've always loved Christmas lights and last year I got to help switch on the Christmas tree lights in my local area."
Samuel Maybury
- on the joy of Christmas lights
Christmas stories: Samuel and Nicola Maybury
Christmas can be a wonderful time for many people. ‘Tis the season for gift-giving, celebration and festive cheer. But for many autistic people and their families, the bright lights, busy gatherings, and changes in routine can be very stressful.
We caught up with Samuel and Nicola Maybury. Samuel is a young autistic man, currently in his final year at secondary school. In recent years, Samuel’s been getting crafty and creating his own Christmas lights, which you can admire below. His mother, Nicola, is an artist, who also sells handmade gifts, and a Christian colouring book.
We chatted to Samuel and Nicola about autism, how they’ll be celebrating Christmas this year, and the bright ideas behind Samuel’s Christmas lights.
When were you diagnosed as autistic and what was the diagnosis process like?
Samuel: I was diagnosed in 2007, at the age of three. I don't remember much about it but do remember going to another nursery and certain things about it, such as the play equipment.
Nicola: We noticed Samuel’s behaviour was different from some of his peers from a very early age. Among other things, he was very obsessive, got incredibly stressed out by changes in routine, was freaked out by very random things and hated anything being out of place. His pre-school nursery also noticed that he preferred to play alone and that he wouldn't move on to other activities, but instead chose to play with one thing continually.
We spoke to our GP about our concerns, and she referred us to a paediatrician, who we managed to see amazingly quickly, thanks to a cancellation. It was suggested that Samuel attend a specialist nursery at our local hospital for half a term, so that different specialists could observe him playing.
Samuel attended this 'new nursery' (as he called it) three mornings a week and his regular pre-school the other two mornings. At the end of the half-term, we had a meeting with all the specialists who had observed Samuel. Their findings were that he was on the autism spectrum. Everything happened really quickly and everyone was so helpful. From only first mentioning our concerns to the GP in January 2007, by May we had a diagnosis and by September, Samuel had a Statement of SEN and a TA (teaching assistant) in place ready for him starting our local infants’ school! For us it was a really helpful, positive experience, but I know this is far from everyone's experience.
Samuel, what is being autistic like for you?
Tricky at times. Sometimes I feel like the odd one out. But I am glad that I was able to have reasonable adjustments - such as a TA at school who can help, and getting a bursary for my studies. I feel anxious a lot of the time and get easily confused which frustrates me, especially if I feel like it annoys other people.
Your Christmas light designs are amazing! What made you decide to create them? Can you talk us through the process?
I've always loved Christmas lights and last year I got to help switch on the Christmas tree lights in my local area, which was really exciting.
For years I've made a version of Christmas lights, by drawing motifs on paper, and sticking them up around the house. Last year, I realised that you can make almost anything using a 3D pen and as Christmas decorations are something that I've made and put up around the house lots before, I thought decorations would look even better made using a 3D pen. The idea of wrapping LEDs around them came afterwards.
Samuel's Christmas lights
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Samuel's Christmas lights
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Samuel's Christmas lights
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Samuel's Christmas lights
"I've always loved Christmas lights and last year I got to help switch on the Christmas tree lights in my local area, which was really exciting."
Are you working on any other arts and crafts projects at the moment?
I'm not working on anything in particular at the moment. There are projects at school but they're slightly different to crafts done at home. However, I do enjoy writing stories in my spare time and taking photos, which I post on my Instagram account: @samofthesouthwest2
How do you both feel about Christmas in general?
Samuel: As a family, we celebrate Christmas fairly traditionally. We listen to music and watch films and put up other decorations. We all enjoy it. I do like Christmas, it's one of my favourite times of the year. I sometimes find it stressful when others have their Christmas things up and we're still waiting for the 'right time'. I sometimes get stressed out when I'm trying to get decorations up in time (I also try to calm myself down at these moments).
Nicola: We love Christmas. As a Christian family we always celebrate, often with lots of church events such as carol concerts etc in the run up to Christmas, although this year will be very different. Samuel has a younger brother and sister, and we all get on well as a family. We enjoy spending time together, and Christmas is a great time to do that, while enjoying being cosy and surrounded by Christmas decorations.
We often watch lots of Christmas films, go on Christmas light hunts in the local area, play family games together and enjoy yummy seasonal food while listening to lots of Christmas music! We find that being away from home for Christmas can be more stressful for Samuel as we are less able to control what happens, so being at home, with just the five of us (plus our dog, tortoise and hamster!) is most relaxing.
Is there anything you both think the public could do help support autistic people during the festive period?
Samuel: I have very sensitive hearing, so when I'm out I struggle with noises like fast cars and motorbikes, sirens and when buses make the loud changing gear 'fizz' noise. I also often feel like people are looking at me a lot and I struggle with crowded pavements.
It would be really helpful if the public would be calmer and more understanding of people who may need more space and a quieter environment - by driving more carefully and allowing space when out and about.
Nicola: I would love it if the public would slow down to make things easier for autistic people. So often everyone is rushing about, but autistic people can't always think or react quickly because they need time to process information or what's going on around them. I would love people to just take time and be more patient.
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