Cerys shares her feelings on the festive season and what helps her at this busy time of year.
 

Hi Cerys! It’s that time again… what do you think of when you hear the word ‘Christmas’? 

My immediate go-to is ‘busy’! Christmas is such a busy time, with lots of people, events, socialising, shopping and planning. I feel a mixture of anxious and excited – two feelings that often come hand-in-hand for me.
 

What aspects of the festive period do you find are the most difficult? 

For me, it’s the pressure to mask and put on a brave face for the people around me so that they have a great time. When other people enjoy the music, the lights and the influx of socialising, it’s really hard to speak up and say that it makes me feel uncomfortable or anxious, which means I spend a lot of the festive period masking.
 

What has been your worst experience of Christmas or the festive season? 

Christmas Day is a particularly loud day, filled with constant chatter, festive music playing at all times, more people than usual and is generally very overstimulating. I think the worst experience for me wouldn’t be a particular experience, but more that 

Christmas is one of those things that never quite goes to plan, so I struggle with the change of routine. 
 

Are there any aspects of Christmas that you enjoy? 

Yes, there are lots of aspects I enjoy! I love seeing my family and reminiscing about what the year has brought, making space for each other and getting together. I also love giving gifts; it feels like the best way to show that I’ve been thinking about someone, that I listen to what they enjoy and to express my appreciation for them without always having to find the perfect words.
 

What would make Christmas less challenging for you? 

If people understood that what works for some people doesn’t work for others, meaning Christmas can look different or be different, depending on what people like, can cope with or enjoy. 
 

Have you used any services or advice provided by the National Autistic Society at Christmas?

I’ve often used the Online Community to see what other people are experiencing or discussing. This service in particular has helped me feel a lot less alone.